Comment from Mark
September 8, 2009 at 2:46 pm

I think it is a great video. Makes perfect sense. Just make sure you send it out as soon as people sign up for your web site. I think it is the most important video yet and needs to be seen right away.

Comment from Maria
September 14, 2009 at 4:36 pm

I think the video was very helpful…I am in the middle of that time period where I cannot contact my ex…it is hard but I have so many things going on with work so it’s been a help

Comment from Robert
September 29, 2009 at 12:47 am

Hi Thomas
Thaks for all the emails and videos, they have been really helpful. I am in the no contact period at the moment and some days I feel terrible but I know that I must go through this time and also avoid premature reconciliation.
Thanks again
Robert

Comment from ula
October 23, 2009 at 2:27 pm

What you give is hope and that always helps when going through tough time. This video with very simple logic explains why not to contact my ex and does it effectively. But I still fear that my ex will forget about me or will not want to see me because he would be afraid to start the same cycle.

Comment from Thomas Trumen
October 23, 2009 at 3:02 pm

I understand were you are coming from, but your ex will not forget about you. As you and your ex have some time apart it gives you time to move on from what caused you to break up. Once you and your ex are able to get over what caused the break up then you can work on becoming friends again. The first step to getting back together is getting over the break up. Once your ex feels like they are over it and you are then they will be willing to open up the lines of communication again.

Comment from kathy
October 24, 2009 at 11:11 am

hey thanks for the vids, its really hard for me because my ex keeps contacting me, today i just told him that good things have happened to me lately and im very happy… it gets easier every day since are started listening to you and tw jackson

Comment from Thomas Trumen
October 24, 2009 at 9:58 pm

Hi Kathy
when your ex contacts you just keep doing what you are doing. Let them know that you are doing great, this will paint a happy image of you in theri mind and this will make them want you even more! Just do not ignore your ex completely.

Make sure you always respond to them so they do not feel like you are ignoring them. Respond real quick, tell them that your busy and you will call them in a week or so.

This will build up more anticipation for your phone call and it will make your ex to continue to think of you. The best part about doing this is that you are slowly taking control of the break up and your ex does not even realize it.

Comment from andres
November 26, 2009 at 1:12 am

Thanks for the videos thomas. It’s good advice and very logic. You are becoming better every time. I still haven’t get anything from my exwife. Seems almost imposible that she is ever going to even consider comunicate with me al least for telling me that it is over. She just don’t say nothing and doesn’t seem to care. It’s been more than three months since all this happened, but one week and a half since I decided not to even try to contact her. I wrote you before an email explaining you my situation which seems a laberint with out an exit. I want this feeling to go away. At night after work is really hard not having her anymore.
Thanks again.

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 3, 2009 at 7:52 am

Hi Andres, You are going to have to give her time. A week and a half of no contact is not long enough. You need to give it at least a month. In your case i would wait at least 5 weeks with no contact. Every time you contact her before she has time to get over the break up, It is just going to remind her of the break up and then it will take her even longer to move on.

I know its hard not having her. But, you need to eat healthy, work out, treat your self good, and stay busy so you can get over her.

You and her will not be able to communicate on the same level until both of you are completely over each other and the break up.

Comment from Michael
December 7, 2009 at 8:46 am

Hi,
I have read TW Jackson’s Magic of Making Up and I suggest that anyone else how is listening to thomas should get this book because it really helped me! I do have a question though in the book it suggests that we should not return call or advance. However she called after the magic letter and emailed me after I missed the call. Please advise what should I do next?

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 7, 2009 at 9:11 am

Yes! You should reply. The magic of making up is saying that you should not call back right away. But if they call regarding the letter then you need to respond. If you ignore them its a sign you are not interested. When you do call make it VERY brief. 3 to 5 minutes max! Then tell them your busy and you will call them back in a week or so when you have time.

Now you know your ex is interested because they responded to the letter. You need to take advantage of this! Now call back letting them know you are also interested (do not say you are) and buy keeping the conversation VERY short it will make them look forward to your call again. If you do not keep it short then they will not look forward to the next call.

The two of you should only exchange 2 questions in the conversation then it needs to end. The conversation will hit a CLIMAX on the first question your ex asks you! After you answer the question you need to end the conversation at the climax. This will make your ex want to talk to you again.

Say “how are you doing? well, i am glad to hear that”

then they ask you and then you reply with

“I am doing great i just have been so busy lately because of great things (this creates interest) have been happening. hey, cant really talk right now but how about “YOU” call me back in a few days or so then i should have time to talk?”

You want to make them think about you as much as possible. By keeping contact very brief at the beginning you keep them thinking about you and this creates INTEREST in you again. You are also taking control of the situation and this is will allow you to dictate what happens next! This is explained in the magic of making up but i think you get the idea.

Comment from Ryan
December 16, 2009 at 8:08 pm

Great video Thomas. Decided to get the magic of making up,and have been able to get over my ex since i startd using the fast forward technique It is really hard not to talk to my ex, but using the Fast Forward Technique really does help. Thanks for all the videos you’ve sent so far, I would be in such a worse position if I didnt start following your adivce and tw jackson.

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 17, 2009 at 5:21 pm

Great! Glad i was able to help Ryan. Keep following my advice Ryan and i promise you that you will see results

Comment from oscar
December 18, 2009 at 2:33 pm

HEY Tom thank u so much for your videos and the magic of making up has helped me a lot since i started reading it !!! they are very helpful,i got 1 question for u? me and my x talked already after 3weeks of the break up she told me shes still have feelings for me but shes not ready to meet for coffe !! she say she’ll call me after the holydays what should i do ?

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 25, 2009 at 5:22 pm

Wait! She needs more time. You do not want yo apply any pressure. As soon as you do she will PULL away. Wait 2 weeks for her to call you. If she does not call you then go ahead and call her again.

Comment from dk
December 27, 2009 at 2:30 am

I’ve been in the no contact phase for almost 2 weeks now and for me, it’s been more easier every day that goes by. Good luck to everyone who’s trying to work get their ex’s back! Thanks Thomas for the help you’re giving us!

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 27, 2009 at 2:50 am

Hi DK, i am glad to see that things are getting easier for you as time goes on and it will continue to get easier for you.

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 27, 2009 at 2:55 am

Hi DK, Your welcome! I need to make something clear to you and everyone about this no contact period. Its actually LIMITED CONTACT. That means you do not call your ex or go out of your way to contact your ex. If your ex calls you, sees you, or contacts you in any way. Then you need to reply to them, do not just ignore your ex. You need to reply because this gives you a chance to regain some control of the break up. Keep the conversion really short and tell them you got to go and you will call them next week etc…

Comment from James
December 28, 2009 at 7:13 pm

I have been in the no contact for 2 weeks now and it’s painful. Do i wish her a happy holiday and all that jazz during this time or do I still not have any contact with her? If she texts me wishing me happy holiday…is it ok to respond to that?

Comment from Thomas Trumen
December 29, 2009 at 1:27 am

Hi James, Yes its ok to respond. This period of no contact is actually LIMITED CONTACT. This means that you do not go out of your way to contact your ex but if your ex contacts you then you need to respond. When you do make it short and to the point. Tell her that you will talk to her in a week or so when you have more time. Doing this shows that you are still INTERESTED but at the same time it keeps her CURIOSITY peeked.

Comment from Joyce
January 18, 2010 at 5:28 pm

I have only one thing to say: THANK YOU for all your help and your support, you are greaaaat!!! Thank you so much man!!

Comment from Thomas Trumen
January 18, 2010 at 11:21 pm

Your Welcome!

Comment from David
January 28, 2010 at 8:05 am

WOW, this is so true, you just have to hang in there and listen thomas to TW Jackson.

Comment from Ruth
February 3, 2010 at 2:09 pm

I tried the limit contact with my ex. but now he wants to go to party I host. what should I do?

Comment from Thomas Trumen
February 4, 2010 at 2:07 am

Still host the party!

This gives you a chance for you to see each other. Gives the two of you a chance to see were your at with your feelings. THis will actually help if you just treat him like a friend and DO NOT talk about the two of you.

Its also important not to have long conversations. Talk only for a few minutes then let him know your busy and tell him if he wants to continue to talk to call you sometime. This will give you control because you tell him to call you and also it makes him want to talk to you more because you cut him short.

If you ever get a chance to talk to your ex during the no contact period never ignore them. This makes it look like you do not want to get back together. Its ok to have some contact during the break period as long as you still keep everything very SCARCE! And as long as you DO NOT IMITATION the contact

Not a lot of contact or anything! Just a little…

This makes them think that you still have some interest in them. So when you do actually try to set something up in a month they will actually be looking forward to it

Comment from Thomas Trumen
March 3, 2010 at 8:48 pm

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Comment from Rodney
March 10, 2010 at 5:03 am

Thomas, Thank you very much for this video. I am in the no contact period for about a week. Does the Magic of Making Up works for long distance relationship? TQ

Comment from Thomas Trumen
March 10, 2010 at 7:30 pm

Yes the magic of making up works for long distance relationships. It works for any situation. You simple take the system and apply all the techniques to your situation. You follow it step by step and as you do ask
your self “ok this is what i need to do, how do i apply it to my situation.”

It obviously can not match 1,000 of break ups right on point but it covers all most every situation possible. Follow the system you will see results

Comment from Deloris
March 11, 2010 at 12:16 am

Video makes a lot of sense, is kinda hard to do at first but can adjust…thank you!

Comment from Jay
March 23, 2010 at 9:35 am

Hey Thomas I really enjoyed this video. I got Tw jacksons system last week. I havent had contact with my ex for 2 weeks now and im doing better than I though I would since i stared reading the magic of making up.
My ex and sister are good friends and they have their birthdays on the same day. They decided to have it together and I was obviously invited, what should I do? Do I get my ex a present or do I even show up?

Comment from Thomas Trumen
March 23, 2010 at 11:30 am

Yes go!

But…

Maker sure you only show up for 20 minutes. Let them know once you get there that you cant be there long because you have plans.
By doing this it gives you just enough time to make a good impression and see how your ex is doing. By leaving early it keeps you
from making mistakes and saying anything stupid. It will also make your ex want to hang out again if you leave at the climax of your time
there.

No present! that is expressing to much to early. Presents are for relationships and right now your just friends. This has to remain clear to your ex
because you need to save all the special things for a relationship to make your ex want to be in a relationship with you. Only give a card to
show your appreciation for the day and thats it.

Comment from Darasy
March 31, 2010 at 12:49 pm

Hi Thomas! After watching your video it really helped. I just started that no contact. Thanks for your support

Comment from Joanne
April 2, 2010 at 6:17 am

The tips from this videos does help me while trying to get through this times. Thanks again

Comment from Jennifer
April 16, 2010 at 3:08 pm

I have been unable to stop the communication! I can’t put down the phone, I want to speak to him, I want to see him, yes I am panicked!

How do I end the communication at this point? We broke up 7 months ago and I am still hanging on like it was yesterday.

and before you ask, I am in therapy and it is not helping either.

I feel like a phone stalker but I am normal, just out of control over my breakup.

we were married 20 years and I was with him all of my adult life. I can’t do this.

Comment from Thomas Trumen
April 16, 2010 at 3:38 pm

I understand how you feel. I will be emailing you soon ok but as of right now the worst thing you could do is talk to him. If you start talking to him while he is in the resentment stage and you are in the panic stage you are going to make it 3x harder to get him back.

You need to not allow your self to be alone right now. Make your you are around someone all day and everyday for the next week. Make plans every day with someone that you are close with.

Comment from Lucy
April 17, 2010 at 3:56 pm

Thanks for the video! I’m in the no contact stage right now. I haven’t contacted my ex in 2 weeks. Everything is getting easier, i’m moving out of the panic stage. i might have to try tw jackson system, Thanks again!

Comment from Mimi
April 24, 2010 at 6:50 pm

Hey Thomas,

So I have already read the Magic of Making up and TWs advice is really helping me. I am trying to do the no contact/ limited contact thing, the only problem is that I cannot completely avoid him. We are on a sailing crew together so we are on a boat for a few hours every week with 6 other people. We are all great friends so we sit and talk and we are all laughing and having a good time. Will I still be able to use the system if I am always talking with him in a friendly atmosphere? we never talk about the break up, just friendly things. What can I do to make sure we get the break we need? I’m worried now that he thinks we will just be friends and I will lose the ability to get him back for good.

Thanks!

Comment from Thomas Trumen
April 25, 2010 at 10:11 am

Yes! still apply the system. The only thing that will change is the no contact period. Its actually limited contact. You can be talking with your ex and everything but keep it limited. Try not to initiate contact with your ex and let them do it.

Also make sure when you talk to your ex do not use any nick names or anything. Keep your ex in the friend zone.