How To Get Over Your Ex “The Secrets” – Break Up Advice

Are you talking positive to your self every day? No

Are you treating your self good by buying gift for your self? No

Are you doing something you enjoy every day? No

Are you working out on a daily basis every day of the week? No

Are you eating healthy every day of the week? No

Are you spending time with family and friends every day of the week? No

Are you DATING OTHER PEOPLE at least once a week! No

This Is Why You Are Feeling SUICIDAL!

Since the break up you have literally programed your self to be depressed.  By not doing any or all of the things above you have been feeding your conscious mind negativitly since the break up. Now your concious mind has trained your subconcious mind to become AUTOMATICALLY DEPRESSED on a daily basis.

Not only that but you have been BEATING THE HELL out of your physically and mentally on a daily basis.  Think about this, when you go tell someone their fat, ugly, and etc…How does that make them feel?

…And when you tell people these negative things over and over again they become fat ugly and depressed because you have trained them to be this way.  My point IS! That is exactly what you are doing to yourself RIGHT NOW!

This is why you wake up in the morning feeling sick, lonley, tired, depressed, suicidal, day dreaming, and etc…I know because I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS JUST LIKE YOU!

…And dont tell me i do not know how you feel because you know i understand. I am telling it is ok to grieve for a few days but it is EXTREMELY IMPORANT you get your SHIT TOGETHER as SOON AS POSSIBLE!

I remember when i would wake up, If i was even able to fall a sleep. I would spend hours laying in bed all alone grasping on to my engagment ring. I would lay in my bed and just STARE AT THE EMPTY SPACE NEXT TO ME were she used to be and stare at our picture together that was sitting on the table next to our bed.

I distinctly remember the 3rd night after she left me i sat up all night watching videos of us together. As i was watching the videos of us i would cry but at the same time i would smile from the happy memories we had together.

I got to a point were i would start to hallucinate and when i would try to cook or read books to not think about my ex everything would blur on me to the point were i would get dizzy. I was MENTALLY FUCKED (excuse my language…lol)

…And this is when i new i had to change my way of thinking before it got really bad or i did something to my self i would regret.

I realized that i already did enough greaving and this was not helping me get my ex back. All it was doing was messing with my head. This is when i STUDIED DEPRESSION like you would NOT BELIEVE and i bought all kinds of books to really study the subject.

I read (click links to seek books)  The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth By June Shiver, Self-Coaching: The Powerful Program to Beat Anxiety and Depression By Joseph J. Luciani,  How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days By Howard Bronson, and one of my favorites was Extreme Break Up Recovery By Jeanette Castelli.

Once i was finally able to move on then i was able to really see what was going on. Instead of standing in the middle of the problem i took a step outside of all my pain and i looked down a pone my break up. I asked my self what do i have to do to fix this. This was when i was finally able to come up with a way to get my ex back.

Why Am I Telling You This…My Depression Problems I Had?

Because its ok to grieve and actually its recommended that you do! But, there comes a point were you have to SLAP YOUR SELF IN THE FACE and realize you have done all the grieving you can do.

I want you to watch this video below of TW Jackson. Not only do i want you to watch it but i want you to REALLY DO WHAT TW JACKSON SAYS in the video. I know at first you might think this wont help you but LISTEN TO ME! You have to do his technique if you want to start feeling better about your self and the break up.

He is going to show you the calming technique. If you have already seen the video or used the technique I WANT YOU TO DO THE CALMING TECHNIQUE RIGHT NOW because it really does help a lot.  I still used this technique even after i got my ex back.

Click Here For The Calming Technique Video: Created By TW Jackson

Posted: April 30th, 2009 under The Best Break Up Advice.
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Comment from Maria
May 1, 2010 at 3:19 pm

I think the video was very helpful…fast forward technique really helps. been applying it since i read the book. I am in the middle of that time period where I cannot contact my ex…it is hard but I have so many things going on with work so it’s been a help

Comment from Mark
May 9, 2010 at 4:14 pm

I think it is a great video. Its going to help me get over this damn break up. Makes perfect sense. Just make sure you send it out as soon as people sign up for your web site. I think it is the most important video yet and needs to be seen right away.

Comment from Julie scheel
May 9, 2010 at 5:29 pm

Thomas thanks so much! its so hard to get over Matt. we were going to school with eachother. Matt left me because he said i was working to much. things didnt start getting bad till after he told me he wanted to move out. The lease was up soon, so he didnt care. He left me and before i watch this video i had no idea what to do. Thanks so much. im going to start eating healthy and work out just like you say.

really appreciate this. ill let you know when i start feeling beter. Wish i could get some coaching from you. Could you coach me? ill let you share my story with everyone else. its stupid really. how we broke up. i know i can get him back.ive beend doing everything you have said. i change my hair from blond to brown and went on got contacts the other day. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

Thanks thomas

Julie scheel

Comment from Shelly
May 17, 2010 at 4:43 pm

Thank you Thomas, awesome video. I have done the greiving and have been eating better, trying to exercise more reading your site and the MOMU but am still in what I have been calling WTF? stage. I can read all day but your videos help hit the material home. After watching this will do the technigues more often and focus more on myself because I still keep reading old messages, letters and all that does is bring me right back down. I agree with Mark up there, this should be one of the very first to go out…helped alot.

Comment from Pat
June 24, 2010 at 7:58 am

Great video Thomas! Can’t wait for the next one! I’m starting to feel better thanks to you.

Comment from Alberto
July 6, 2010 at 8:03 pm

thanks thomas. I cant wait to start putting these techniques to affect. Cant wait for the next video Thanks you so much.

Comment from sanjeev
August 2, 2010 at 2:29 am

Thank you Thomas, its really good feel much better

Comment from Angela
August 11, 2010 at 2:47 am

Thanks for the continuous messages. Just when I feel myself falling down the downward spiral there is a message from you which I read and it encourages me to stay positive and get a grip!

Comment from coty
August 11, 2010 at 11:47 pm

im almost completely over my ex. i feel great about myself and im dating other women (: thanks thomas!

Comment from Mary
August 13, 2010 at 9:49 pm

This was a great video:) I really hope I can get my ex back soon with your help:D Thank you.

Comment from Vic
August 18, 2010 at 8:34 am

Hey Thomas thank you for the video I’m goin out more have been eating right and I feel better in myself.
I’m finding it hard with the waiting period but your videos are helping so much. I have Magic of Making up now and it’s really helped me realise where we went wrong, I so hope I can fix it, I know our relationship would be so much better if only I can show him that.

Comment from Peter
August 25, 2010 at 3:11 pm

Thanks Thomas for another great video. It is amazing how I have forgetten the basics of life when my break up hit me. I already work out every day (and you’re right it is invaluable),and eat okay, but I need to stop the negative self talk and get out on some more dates. Thanks again Thomas

Comment from Inga
October 22, 2010 at 10:27 pm

Hi Thomas,
Thank you for the video, your videos always make me feel better. I look forward to every new video. I’m a week into the no contact period and I must admit its been difficult not contacting my ex. I keep wondering what he is doing or if he’s hooking up with other women and each time I get more depressed. I definately need to start thinking positively.

Comment from ThomasTrumen
October 22, 2010 at 11:11 pm

Hi Inga!

Its going to take time and eventually you will start feeling better as you apply all the information i am giving you to your situation. I wish you the best and keep watching the videos as you are trying to get your ex back. Take it easy 🙂

Comment from Maryanne
January 28, 2011 at 8:55 am

Hi Thomas,
thanks so much for the video. I’ve been feeling depressed lately as recently I bumped into my ex unexpectedly during my no contact period. When he saw me, he totally avoided me, in spite of the friendly smile i gave him. From hereon, I should start to be more confident if I happen to face him as i apply this technique. (:

Comment from Rawr
January 30, 2011 at 8:00 pm

wow thanks Thomas! this stuff is really helping a lot! i’m feeling better and more confident everyday 😀

Comment from sergio matamoros
February 7, 2011 at 11:05 pm

Thanks thomas you’re videos and insight have been very helpful.

Comment from Anonymous
February 14, 2011 at 5:26 pm

Thanks so much Trumen! Keep it up! :))

Comment from Yvonne Torjek
March 12, 2011 at 10:08 am

Dear Thomas!
Thank You very much for your videos with so much love and understanding. You and T.W take our hands and help us during this terrible time. I feel much confident after You kindly send diarily a support message. God bless You
Yvy from Sweden

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